Why do you have a goal?

This may seem like a weird question to ask but it is an important one.  Many of us have goals; we set them, write them down, stare at them, fret over them, achieve them, miss them and we love them.  Yes, we love setting goals!  There is something fun and exciting about setting them but then something happens along the way.  We get busy, something gets in the way, we let fear stop us or we just let them exist in space without actively doing anything to achieve them.  

So, why do you have a goal?

What I really mean by this is that you need to know your "why" before you can achieve your goal.  Why do you want to achieve your goal?  What will your life look when you achieve this goal?  How will you feel?  These are all important questions to ask when you are setting your goals.

Yes, set your goals and I encourage you to write them down and place them around your house where you can see them (mine are on my bathroom mirror!) but your goals must have deep roots to survive so you can reach them.  Maybe you have heard this before but didn't really understand what it meant or you had a hard time connecting to a "why".  Let me share an example from my life to help you!

When I first started my weight loss journey I set a goal to lose weight.  

Simple, right?  I want to lose weight.  

I had set this goal many times before since my twenties but I didn't achieve it.  I would try but that "something" would get in the way.  It wasn't until I connected a why to that goal that I was able to reach it.  The reason I was able to reach my goal was that my why was so deep and hit me in my gut every time I saw or thought it that I never quit.  I always knew I was going to reach that goal come hell or high water.  

What was "My Why"?  My kids.  My why was that I wanted to be able to run around with my kids without being tired or out of breath.  I wanted to have more energy so that I could be a mom that participates in activities with them.  I wanted to be a role model to my girls; I didn't want them to see someone who had poor eating habits, felt uncomfortable in her body and clothes and was sad.  I wanted them to see a healthy, vibrant, happy and confident woman.  I wanted to be alive for them in my most radiant health for as long as I can.  

See, that last line? That was one that really hit me in my gut.  I want to be alive for them.  It still brings me to tears.

Did I want to lose weight?  Yes.  Did I want to look good in clothes?  Yes.  Did I want to feel good buying clothes from the "regular" stores?  Yes.  Did I want to feel desirable?  Yes.  I had all the same goals many of us want when we choose to lose weight and become healthier but they were not the ones that kept me going.  It was my "why".

That experience taught me so much about connecting to a why that I use it for every aspect of my life.  I know you have a goal, whether it be starting a business, a health goal, a fitness goal or a family goal, start with your why.  

Don't know where to start?  Let me help.  Contact me to schedule a free 15 minute mindset session to help you connect to your why!