Cleansing your thoughts (a better feeling place)


You when you think detox you often think about your body; maybe losing weight or detoxing off sugar but what about our minds?  I used to preach the following 3 steps to others but did not incorporate them myself (I know, RIGHT?) and I found myself in a pretty deep depression.  After working with an amazing therapist and coach, I was able to see how important these steps were, with a few tweaks, and it was my saving grace.  So, without further ado, 3 steps to get you to a better feeling place (or to cleanse your thoughts):

1)    Keep a journal and write down any limiting beliefs that come up or anything you are thinking.  First, analyze if what you are thinking is really true.  Many times we ramble and berate ourselves but really what you are thinking is just a story.  Second, write down 3 feelings thoughts you are feeling in that moment.  Then 3 feelings you would like to feel; how can you get to those feelings?  It may be as simple as watching a funny cat video or it may require some rest.  Listen to your body and how it feels.

2)    Take 5-20 minutes a day to meditate.  There are many free meditations online you can google; my fave on itunes is "your own private beach" (it is a good one to start with if you are a beginner).  If you can't seem to quiet your mind, find someone you feel comfortable with to help you.  Many times, it's all about finding the right meditation that connects with you.

3)    In the morning, write or share with your family 3 things  for which you are grateful.  We have many things to be grateful for such as clean water, eyes to see with, smiles to share, etc.  At first, it may feel forced, I know it was for me, and that is OK.  As you progress, you may find yourself getting deeper and really feeling grateful for more and more in your life.

Always in health, love and light!

Why do you have a goal?

This may seem like a weird question to ask but it is an important one.  Many of us have goals; we set them, write them down, stare at them, fret over them, achieve them, miss them and we love them.  Yes, we love setting goals!  There is something fun and exciting about setting them but then something happens along the way.  We get busy, something gets in the way, we let fear stop us or we just let them exist in space without actively doing anything to achieve them.  

So, why do you have a goal?

What I really mean by this is that you need to know your "why" before you can achieve your goal.  Why do you want to achieve your goal?  What will your life look when you achieve this goal?  How will you feel?  These are all important questions to ask when you are setting your goals.

Yes, set your goals and I encourage you to write them down and place them around your house where you can see them (mine are on my bathroom mirror!) but your goals must have deep roots to survive so you can reach them.  Maybe you have heard this before but didn't really understand what it meant or you had a hard time connecting to a "why".  Let me share an example from my life to help you!

When I first started my weight loss journey I set a goal to lose weight.  

Simple, right?  I want to lose weight.  

I had set this goal many times before since my twenties but I didn't achieve it.  I would try but that "something" would get in the way.  It wasn't until I connected a why to that goal that I was able to reach it.  The reason I was able to reach my goal was that my why was so deep and hit me in my gut every time I saw or thought it that I never quit.  I always knew I was going to reach that goal come hell or high water.  

What was "My Why"?  My kids.  My why was that I wanted to be able to run around with my kids without being tired or out of breath.  I wanted to have more energy so that I could be a mom that participates in activities with them.  I wanted to be a role model to my girls; I didn't want them to see someone who had poor eating habits, felt uncomfortable in her body and clothes and was sad.  I wanted them to see a healthy, vibrant, happy and confident woman.  I wanted to be alive for them in my most radiant health for as long as I can.  

See, that last line? That was one that really hit me in my gut.  I want to be alive for them.  It still brings me to tears.

Did I want to lose weight?  Yes.  Did I want to look good in clothes?  Yes.  Did I want to feel good buying clothes from the "regular" stores?  Yes.  Did I want to feel desirable?  Yes.  I had all the same goals many of us want when we choose to lose weight and become healthier but they were not the ones that kept me going.  It was my "why".

That experience taught me so much about connecting to a why that I use it for every aspect of my life.  I know you have a goal, whether it be starting a business, a health goal, a fitness goal or a family goal, start with your why.  

Don't know where to start?  Let me help.  Contact me to schedule a free 15 minute mindset session to help you connect to your why!